"I need to learn that another woman’s beauty doesn’t take away from my own. And her success does not limit mine. I cannot love the queen in myself but loathe the queen in my sister. I struggle with feeling envious and jealous, especially when it comes to looks, and it’s completely contrary to my otherwise celebration of women and womanhood. I need to understand, not just intellectually, but in practice, that another woman’s queendom will not cause mine to crumble. It will strengthen it. Another woman’s beauty should not turn me green, but instead humble me and allow me to admire.
I’m reminded of a chapter on beauty and internal light from the book A Woman’s Worth. Marianne Williamson says feminine beauty is not a function of clothes or hair or makeup. Beauty is an internal light, a spiritual radiance that all women have but most women hide, unconsciously denying its existence. The woman who is truly self-aware knows that her self is a light from beyond this world that has nothing to do with the physical world.
I need to learn to embrace the light that shines from other women and not feel intimidated if they shine brighter than me. They are older, more experienced, their light shines that bright for a reason. Their light is a combination of other lights, from other women. They love and admire and grow with other women, they aren’t nasty or envious. Until I can learn to absorb and appreciate the internal light and beauty that other women have, my light will be dim.”